Who writes negative and why, how to distinguish it from “constructive” and how to respond to haters on social media?
Who leaves angry comments and why?
Type 1: people with a negative mindset. They are accustomed to seeing bad things wherever possible, and, accordingly, react negatively to everything. Their focus is always on what is wrong.
Type 2: people who want to increase their value. They boil inside if they see that you are better at something or have more than them. Noticing publicly other people’s weaknesses, they try to show their superiority and strength.
Type 3: people seeking fame. They hope that the post with their comment will get thousands of likes or someone will take a screenshot of their opinion in the media. And, as you know, it is much easier to attract attention with a negative than with a positive one.
How to distinguish constructive criticism from hate?
In order to distinguish a benevolent person from a hater, it is enough to establish a certain “filter” for yourself. It consists of the following questions:
1. Is the person an expert on the topic they are commenting on? If not, what is the point of taking his opinion into account?
2. Is the person trying to offend you or with positive intentions clarifies what specifically disliked or disagreed with?
For example: “I did not understand anything from your article – solid water” – here the reader does not praise, but expresses the opinion that there is little specificity in the article. “Some kind of nonsense,” but this is the voice of a hater.
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How to behave so as not to run into negativity?
You can never swim without disturbing the surface of the water – take it for granted. If you are a public person, then negative comments will be required. So instead of bothering with possible negativity, keep doing what is important to you.
If you work in the genre of provocation, which in itself implies the generation of indignation, be elementarily correct and polite, expressing your thoughts from a position of respect. Also analyze the reaction to your material: did you manage to convey what you wanted initially, or not? Change if the goal requires it.
How to react correctly if a hater appears?
1. First of all, you can be glad – they read / watch you. What you write about worries people.
2. If the comment is constructive, consider it as an invitation to dialogue – convey your thought, talk. Such conversations can be an excellent opportunity to clarify something for yourself in addition: loved ones may not say something, it is difficult to evaluate oneself beloved, but here it is such a gift of fate.
3. If you see that there is a 100% hater in front of you – do not add fuel to the fire, because this is what he expects. He wants to throw you off balance and make you play on his own terms. Not only will a spiteful answer not solve the problem, it will make you feel even worse. If you can’t help it, write an emotional response, but don’t post it. Wait until tomorrow, while at this time focus on the things that really matter to you. Then erase what was written in emotion.
4. Never respond with aggression, irony and teachings. Unless, of course, you want to run into new grievances on an expanded scale. Think better if a negative comment is worth your reaction at all, because the hater is just waiting for this. Don’t get caught up in hot discussions in a public format. You don’t have to respond to every comment.
How do I write a constructive comment?
If you don’t like something, but at the same time you are afraid of offending the person, then it is better not to write anything at all. You never know what he will think and with what intonation a person will perceive a comment.
But if it is still important for you, for any reason, to express your position, then it is wiser to do it as follows:
1. First, ask if the person is willing to accept constructive advice from you at all. If so, start by saying that this is just your personal opinion.
2. Express your comment from a neutral position, that is, exclude any insults that negatively color what you see or read.
3. Write on your own: “I think that …” or “In my opinion …”. Take away generalizations. The “everybody knows what…” option is not good.
4. Be specific. List what you disagree with and explain why. A comment like “some strange video” is about nothing. Instead, draw the person’s attention to what needs improvement and suggest a solution.
5. Write your opinion to the author in a personal message or by mail, offering help. This form of comment will be much nicer than public unfounded criticism.
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